I'm still fairly new here so any advice or personal experience would be helpful...
I found out about my WH's A with his co-worker first week of Sept. At the time, he said it had been over for a few months and the situation w/ working w/ her had been a bit uncomfortable since they stopped. Now he says its REALLY uncomfortable now that I found out! But I don't know what to believe?
We started seeing a MC right away who he doesn't like bc he thinks she's male bashing, but he still goes. I think she's just making him have accountability for his actions and he may be uncomfortable w/ that, but for anything to work and move fwd. we both have to be comfortable w/ the MC, right? I'm just not sure she's getting thru to him though because he doesn't like her feedback.

Anyway, he "apparently" asked OW to quit the job and she refuses because she has a kid to support and he refuses to quit because he loves his job. We don't have any children or pets and I work as well. And now I'm trying to Plan A because he wants go on like normal and "move forward". But I'm still extremely bothered by this because it hasn't been that long since I found out! I'm so suspicious that its driving me nuts!

I had told him before that we can't completely get back to normal until the OW is totally out of the picture, but neither of them intend to quit the job! I don't want him around her but yet I don't want him unemployed either so I've hit a brick wall for the time being. He knows this bothers me so should I give him an ultimatum? Should I move to Plan B until he finds another job? How will that help us?

Anyone have any success stories from situations like mine? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

<small>[ October 10, 2002, 03:21 PM: Message edited by: zany ]</small>

Zany,

Sorry to hear of your plight. I was in the process of posting some links to get more assistance from those on the GQII site (more traffic there) and found that your story is similar to Faith7's. So I will add yours to the same thread.

What have you read or learned from here?

take care,
L.

Zany,
I feel for you. My H's OW was also a co-worker. I don't really have any advice. Orchid is great and will call attention to your post so you should get lots of help. KEEP POSTING. Even if no one answers it is good to get things out. Somehow writing helps us process our thoughts. I would suggest you post on General Questions. That site does get more traffic. And a lot of people lurk there who have been through the whole process, d-day, false recovery, recovery, divorce, etc. Good luck to you and don't give up, things sound pretty good for you, but I know how frustrating it is to have OW in the picture.

Sharon

Zany,

Are you still with us? I'm so sorry that it took us so long to get to your thread.. the Plan A/PLan B forum tends to be a little slow sometimes. But Orchid call out the troups.

So please let us know if you are here as we are looking for you.

<small>[ June 05, 2003, 12:46 AM: Message edited by: Eleonora ]</small>

Hello...I'm still here. I'll probably take your advice and post to other threads that get more traffic. Thanks!