Boy it's only been 2 days after my W called me after 6 weeks, but it is hard not picking up the phone and calling!!!

I really have a problem with all the I-net affairs. Am I crazy or is the whole world getting weird?? My wife really doesn't think it's the same as meeting someone in person. That's ridiculous isn't it? I know it's not how my marriage got to the point it is, but it's not helping me get any closer to her. She's like addicted to talking to all the available men out there. Hopefully fog will lift and she'll come out and see the real daylight.

Would it be adviseable in a couple of weeks of no contact if the MC were to call her and see if she'd like to go in for an IC? Or do I just wait patiently for her to make the move (if she does)?

How long do I wait to show affection since we are separated? Isn't this part of Plan A. Do little things to show affection to fill her love bank with no LB's? How long do I wait before doing any of these things? She got a good dose of the new Alan the other night. If I know my wife she will be expecting me to call her real soon (since I begged and pleaded in the beginning) She will wonder what is wrong if I don't. She's very curious.

I wish I was home to tuck in my girls.

My wife and I discussed alot of things that I didn't do right in the marriage. She finally took some responsibility in the marriage breakdown.......I was surprised. I've been blamed since day one. This makes me believe that fog has lifted a little. I feel that once she understands that seeing a guy or talking to men when your still married is an affair........now we are on level playing field since she is really mad at me for having EA over a year ago. She was probably shocked that I didn't get mad about the guy she was with at concert. Normally I would be, but I know why she did it and now she should realize how easy it really is if marriage is suffering. I made some jokes about it (didn't get mad...no LB) and she laughed too. She may still be in contact with him or others, but it doesn't bother me. If that's the life she chooses......sounds like unhapiness to me. I told her I was staying faithful to her....enough pain has occured. I'm starting a brand new way of life for me. Total honesty and respect for others. For 2 years Satan was eating at my soul and he won't win. I won't allow him to destroy my marriage. God will stand with me.

I bet she was surprised when I remembered the restaurant we went to on first date and were we had our first kiss.

I am praying for everyone here having family problems. I thank everyone here for helping me. I hope to have an outcome then I will really celebrate on MB!

God Bless

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by AlanArthur:
<strong>Would it be adviseable in a couple of weeks of no contact if the MC were to call her and see if she'd like to go in for an IC? Or do I just wait patiently for her to make the move (if she does)?</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Keep your line of contact open and be creative and don't sound desparate. You stay clear out of her way if the contact become an LB to her, but from your post it seems that she liked to talk to you.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><strong>How long do I wait to show affection since we are separated? Isn't this part of Plan A. Do little things to show affection to fill her love bank with no LB's? How long do I wait before doing any of these things? She got a good dose of the new Alan the other night. If I know my wife she will be expecting me to call her real soon (since I begged and pleaded in the beginning) She will wonder what is wrong if I don't. She's very curious.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">More reason to call ... also if you are affectionate in the past and this is part of your plan A ... go full blast !!!. Affectionate doesn't mean touching or sexual ... get Hallmark cards !!! Now days they have "trouble relationship" section. Even ending phone call w/ "I love you" is good since you want to show her that you still love her. Don't beg or pleaded ... that is an LB.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><strong>I wish I was home to tuck in my girls. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Keep it always on the back of your mind to hold you from LB'ed !!!. They are worth fighting for.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><strong>My wife and I discussed alot of things that I didn't do right in the marriage. She finally took some responsibility in the marriage breakdown.......I was surprised.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">People changed and could changed.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><strong>For 2 years Satan was eating at my soul and he won't win. I won't allow him to destroy my marriage. God will stand with me. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Give this quote to your WW next time you talked to her .... this is a word pictures <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> .

Remember I am a dial away from you ... ring me once and hung up. If I catch it I call you right back, complement of ATT no-limit offer <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> .

How do you battle sin ?, by doing good !. -RH-