Hi everyone. I need advice from someone please. I have been in a modified Plan B for over 7 months. We have not seen each other or have talked on the telephone. We have been writting E-mails to each other for over a year and recently we have had instant message discussions on the S.A.A. book. all as been going well with them. A lot as been aired and he says he misses me and the kids. This week though, he came up with the kine that since he hasnt seen me in so long that he feels totally disconnected and doesnt think there is anything left between us. This statement throws me after all my strageties have been working great. Please, if anyone can give me some feedback... I am so discouraged now with Plan B. Maybe it was a big mistake. Help !!!! Pookie4
BS (me) 47yrs
WH 48 years
Married 24 years
4 children(ages 22,19,12,and6)
D-day..Mar 2001
counseling Apr-May
Plan A for 7 months
H-moved out to live with OW Aug 2001
Started modified Plan B Jan 2002(much communication over computer)
Full Plan B..Sept 02

Do you counsel w/ MB ?. Strange you call it modified plan B ... you were in plan A all along. JMHO.

-RH-

Yeah, I tend to agree with RH... it's like you saying you're "kind of pregnant"... Plan B is intended to remove yourself completely after a time of Plan A, where you maintain contact.

It is risky, and that's why Plan A is best done until you're truly at the end of your rope! (I.e. you're pretty much willing to see the M end, but still willing to give it one last shot.)

P.S. Plan B can never truly "backfire" since it makes no promise about outcome other than that you will achieve some kind of resolution, one way or another... either a shot at M recovery, or moving on with your life, having lost all your love for your WS.

<small>[ October 22, 2002, 06:13 PM: Message edited by: J.R. ]</small>

Thankyou Redhat and J.R for posting a reply. What I think I have to do now is write another Plan B letter. The one 7 months ago probably went right out of his mind. This time I plan to follow through and have absolutely no communciation directly with him. And no, I do not counsel with M.B. but have read the book at least 20 times !!!! No kidding !!! Knowing this book has been the only thing that has gotten me through this nightmare. I wish my marriage back with all my heart. I hope this works now. Thanks again. Pookie4