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Thought my plan A might have worked. I guess I was wrong. Nothing intimate - but the communication's there again. Good topic for the counsiler today <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
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'Coaster ride is suck, don't expect too much unless it is consistent behavior and forget about SO's words.
Hang in there and vent in here
-RH-
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She seemed pretty sincere - and I think she was at the time - this one was an EA via IM.
I kinda see an alcoholic saying "It'll probably be OK if I take just one drink."
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Right on, brother... A is a type of an addiction. Some WS is addicted to OP. When there is relapse ... What to do with it ?, nothing ... just ask them why they did it, what triggers the behavior, and what to do about it to avoid it in the future. As long as they are willing to admmit it and seeking help, we have to give them room. Having been helping a 10 years heroin addict gave me an insight into how to handle them. However word of warning ... we are all threading between thin line of "helping" and "enabling" ... and know the different.
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Counsiler says she still reccomends a "couples counsiler" - Told her I was a bit apprehensive as I know that we both still have some individual issues that we each need to address ourselves.
Just as an added note there was a PA that has taken place as well - this EA is the lesser of the 2 evils. Can't help but wonder though - if communication in the EA is back - then what about the PA ?
<small>[ October 25, 2002, 03:39 PM: Message edited by: strive ]</small>
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by strive:
<strong>.... Can't help but wonder though - if communication in the EA is back - then what about the PA ?</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Usually it will follow not far behind if it is not already. Expect the worst from WS so that you are ready emotionally. How long have you in plan A ?, good plan A ? has any impact ?. Is she remorse about her renew contact of she just denies it or she bluntly continue it ?. Depending on your situation, you might want to think about plan B otherwise you are grooming a cake eater monster.
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RH,
Send me an e mail to :
wiseone43081@yahoo.com
I'll answer soon.
TNX
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