My W does not know anything about Plan A or Plan B. She hasn't visited this site. However, she says she has noticed the changes in me the last few weeks.

She told me today that she thought it was unhealthy to do Plan A. Specifically, she said it was unhealthy for me to keep trying to save the M, to love her and and to hang on to hope. She says she can't fill my needs and that we can't make the M work and that she is not interested.

Your thoughts are appreciated. Is this another way for her to discourage me?

Thanks.

I also posted this under GQ II.

Don't listen!

Your WW will say and do things that will try to get you off the very narrow path of Plan A.
She will tell you it is over and there is no hope etc. Expect her to say that.

As for her knowing about this site or Plan A/B etc, remember actions speak louder than words. She does not have to know you are specifically in Plan A or anything. Just do it.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by utterlyconfused:
<strong>Your thoughts are appreciated. Is this another way for her to discourage me?
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I will be short based only on your post and have not read your other posts. Yes, it is normal that WS tries to push you away. Remember A is addictive so to make it easier and less guilt, WS will push and even hurt you with words that they know very well would hurt you but they would never say it out of fog. If you in plan A, ignored everything and don't take any words personally. Those actions are sysmptom not the cause. FOCUS on plan A

This is why a lot of OP/WS thought we are in the fog ourself. One of you should be the adult one and beleive in that If WS is willing to work on M using MB then both of you could have a better M that what you have before.

-RH-