I have read quite a few posts here re: to snoop or not to snoop on WS. I have to admit I had done some snooping on my own...
How I found out about the A was interesting. I was cleaning our closet and found an indecent pic of OW, a letter and a CD she made for my H last year. I hadn't been snooping, I just found the stuff, this was 2 months ago. We have been through counseling but he stopped because he didn't like the MC, so I'm trying to find another one. Things have been a little better, we seperated for awhile and its been an emotional roller coaster for us both (especially me!), he insists the A was over in August but OW is still quite persistent.
I had started to call his work, not saying who I was but just asking if a particular function was going on when he worked late, so far so good. Well a few days ago he confronted me about it...his story is that apparently a manager confronted him about the calls because for some reason the employees figured out it was me (even though we've never met and I never said who I was) and it was making them feel "uncomfortable" that I was calling so much! So since then I've stopped because there's no point making others in the work place feel uncomfortable but now I'm wondering if I should have? Would he just say that to make me stop or do you think I crossed the line? WH was real upfront w/ me about that not being a wise thing to do Now I don't know what to do? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />
I have been trying Plan A even though he says the A is over so maybe its recovery now? I just don't know...
<small>[ November 02, 2002, 07:12 AM: Message edited by: zany ]</small>