My WW told me last night that she will be "dating" OMs on a regular basis to try to find out if I am truly the one for her. I have been Plan Aing for a month now, which I know isn't that long, but when is it truly time to move to plan B? If nayone can give me there insight and thoughts that would be great.

She is currently in her own place so it will probably be harder to Plan A then B.

Bandit,
I have heard the same thing from my H. He moved out in Aug. I moved out of our house in Sept. You can definitely Plan A while apart. We were still having SF which I think was a HUGE help on our road to recovery. It starts with baby steps, and it is frustrating but I can tell you he is not seeing anyone else and even though he hasn't moved in with me yet, we have spent everynight together for almost 6 weeks.
Try posting on the Emotional Needs Board. I think there is more repsonses there and I know there are alot of very wise helpful people there.
Have you read Lovebusters? You don't want to make any withdrawals at this point and do you know what her 5 most important EN's are. If she won't do the questionaire's then maybe you can try and decide what she needs most.
Hope this helps. You can read my posts to see that his does work (or so far it has) if you work at it an make the necessary changes in you to make your marriage work. Plan A is not about them, it's about you. Read everything here and think of ways it will apply to your life.
Hope this helps..
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Plan A. Don't let WS's actions/words throw you from that path. Keep up with Plan A. It is not easy. Typically Plan A goes for 6 months or so.
Be prepared for the long haul.

Plan B only after consulting with Steve Harley and only when you can't take the pain anymore and are going to LB and ruin all your Plan A hard work.

Hello Bandit,
I thought my wife is one of a kind saying things like: I want to see if there is better life for me, better spuse etc. Until I saw your post.
My situation is almost identical with yours.
How do you cope with all that S**t?
My wife is separated from me for over a month but still phones me with requests for help with computer, car,etc. We went out for a dinner, went shopping together etc. But she still says she is not in love with me anymore.
My plan is to use plan A, being there for her, helping and being nice(at least in her presence).I think that is the first step. I want to show her the life she could have with me. THe rest is up to her. I do not have high hopes, but want to give it the best shot, so I will walk away stronger.

Bandit you might want to read Five Things You Can Start Doing Right Away To Turn The Tide In Your Favor....

Good luck and God bless.