I have only posted once so here is a refresher.
WH is in love with OW. Moved out of home in July . I have been in Plan A since then. I thoght he was coming home but he extended his lease on apartment. He finally decided he would come home 11/3. spent half the day crying over OW. I tried to comfort him (bad LBer). WH left that very same day. Now says he is moving in with her. Has to give it a try since she is the one who now makes him happy. I do not know how to treat a man. I let myself go I let him fall out of love with me I don't listen . It's all my fault.

So.. according to WH, I can either let him have this time to play house with her or I can just file. He really didn't care.

I am an emotional wreck. I can't eat. I can't sleep. I can't work I spend all day crying. I feel like such a failure. I truly believe this is all my fault. I let myself go by gaining weight. And I wasn;t affectionate enough. But that's only because he kept telling me how fat I was. I am not sure what to do at this point. Please help !

Hi blessing,

I am sorry you are in this mess. Your H is very cruel. Are you also pregnant? If so, more support is needed.

What have your read and learned here from MB? Have you read surviving an affair and read the concepts section?

Also see if you can go and get some type of MC or do phone counseling with Steve or Jennifer.

Right now your H is babbling and trying to get you to do his dirty work. If you are not up to that, then tell him to go and get the D. Make sure he keeps 'all' his obligations and then let it go. I am not telling you to D your H, I am telling you to put the responsibility on him. It will be hard but he is not playing fair nor right with you at this time. Do not give your all to such an unappreciative person. Save that love for those who really love you.

Many a WS have said just what your H is saying. Let them live out their words.......not too many can. But it is a long road for the BS and family. So read up and get some support.

Let us know how you are doing.

take care,
L.