I really wanted to thank you for your advice about how to approach WS about his online A. It took all my might not to &#8220;Confront&#8221; him, but I managed quite well. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> After a sleepless night on my part, he became very concerned about my happiness in our R. I held it together until that evening, at that point I was so exhausted and emotionally wrecked I flat out asked him if he&#8217;d been chatting again.. he denied it, <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> but hasn&#8217;t been back to that account since. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

He&#8217;s been very very attentive and loving. We&#8217;ve had several good conversations about life in general and our R. I&#8217;m still in plan A and keeping the gentle pressure on for more R talks more openness and honesty between us.

Right now he&#8217;s running a little scared&#8230; guilt?.. maybe.

CtrlAltDel,

Good job <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> . Since you have R talk w/ H, why don't you ask him point blank if he is interested to fillin ENQ/ENQ/RAQ and start talking about it together. If he is not interested, read the questionair and ask him with your own words <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> .

Remember to vent her and hang in there.

Read also The Language of Love and let me know if you decide to use it.

-rh-