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What about a Moderate Plan B?
#464466 11/14/02 08:18 PM
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Hi,
I know I have another post here that I've posted recently (see Tough Love)but I'm really curious about this Plan B stuff...

I feel that if you've done Plan A for a little while and there's still no real action from the WS, just words, than Plan B might be okay...but in moderation. See, my WH and I tried the no contact deal w/ each other for a few days and found that it didn't work. So what if I Plan B (move in w/ a friend) but still offer to "date" my H sometimes? Does that sound odd?

Can you Plan A while not living together? My MC thinks since my WH is not taking any action to change his situation than I should set him free for the time being (meaning one of us moves out) until he shows that he's willing to work on our marriage...if he really wants to. Thoughts?
Re: What about a Moderate Plan B?
#464467 11/15/02 02:03 AM
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zany,

There is no middle ground, either you are in plan A or you are in plan B. In plan B involves no contact and avoidance of fillin ENs. You could plan A from far, just look at Alan Athur's post. If you could control your LB'ed you should try to reside in the same residence for plan A.

I feel that if you've done Plan A for a little while and there's still no real action from the WS, just words, ....
It is not LB'ed to let WH eats his own crow. You didn't promise or put a gun on his head to promise you, w/o LB'ed you could ask him what he has done that could be contributed to his promise.

In short, take a break and start fresh look again when you are back from your vacation. -rh-

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