Since June 02 I have been trying my best to do a good Plan A. I have LB'ed and made mistakes but I feel I am improving as a person.
The A continues and WS says she loves OM. I decided to go to Plan B at the start of the month but found making the break very difficult. Came home yesterday to tell WS I was leaving and there would be NC. (Plan B). OM was locked in house with WS (again). Stayed as calm as I could and collected my clothes, some files. Told WS & OM that I love WS and that she could not have both of us in her life anymore. WS then collected my 2S from school bus and I told them I was leaving that I loved them, that I will be here for them, for them & told them to look after WS and I left.
The image of my WS and 2S waving to me as I left is etched on to my brain. OM also saw all this from his vehicle on our drive.
Any tips for Plan B or what I should do now please?

Me BS 45, WS 47 known OM 20 years, 2S 15, 16,
WS nasty since Easter. D Day 1 (WS suggests I don't love her, that I would be better off w/o her 6/3/02 evidence of EA 8/10/02
D Day 2 WS admits EA with OM 7/14/02
Plan A from 6/10/02 a few LBs.

I am possibly about two weeks behind you but am not going to do anything until another session. I've only had one session so far, so I can't really say from personal experience, but it would seem that having ongoing sessions, at least in the beginning, might be a good idea.

One suggestion - don't end Plan B too early until your requirements are met. This assumes that you've made them somewhat clear and that they are productive towards recovery. I wouldn't know if you have.

Anyway, I hope there are more replies on this thread due to my own situation.

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I'm so sorry that you felt you had to leave. I hurt for you because I ask my self why YOU should have left when it was your WS who chooses to rip this family apart!?!

I would have thrown her behind out the door for flaunting that relationship in your face! But, I understand you are in pain and not thinking clearly...when you love someone soo soo much as we do our S even when they hurt us so badly, it's so easy to further hurt ourselves by removing ourselves from the painful situation in an effort to escape the pain we feel when it's waved in our face.

I don't have alot of advice, but I do empathize with you. When I was a WS, I forced my H out because i wanted to be with my OM who is now my H so so bad. I didn't care what he went through or how he did it. He was out of my life and that's what I wanted! My love for him was gone, and i had "moved on."

This woman needs tough love. You have got to be strong right now and stand up for your self respect! Whatever you do, don't lose that.

My heart goes out to you..

Thank you est and fallingapart.
I had to leave the house as I work away from home all week and I would not be able to look after them. I am looking for work close to our S's school but as you can imagine my I am a lot less confident at interview than normal. Our S's education would suffer if they moved away from their school.
As there was very little response to this thread, I have posted another on GQII.

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