Ok, im in plan a, ow is still an issue, wondering if maybe ow 2 anyway, other than the A's our relationship is better, he is talking to me, we you know, and he is a better father, , anyway, three weekends ago he passed out at a friends house, and didn't come home. what ever, he did it again. ok, enough is enough. I decided to not get home before him anymore. if he wants to stay out without me so can i. probably not a good way to stay married, i agree, however. I stayed out until the bars close. he called me from home about 2:30, I didn't answer the cell phone, he called again. i answered. said i was dropping some friends off, we were all laughing and the radio was loud. He was really nice when i got home. He is going hunting next weekend. Sat night out all night. I told him i was planning to sleep at a friends house. I know, fighting fire with fire usually, the one who starts it gets burned. He may use this to justify his behavior, however. i am to the point that i think plan b is coming, i am just showing him how much he will miss his little, housekeeper, designated driver, cook, babysitter, se* partner, coffee maker, and general assistant doormat. He has no idea that i am at this point. I want to tell him but don't even know where to start without LB. Anyway just what im planning, any thoughts???

Sounds to me like plan b is where you are. This is not productive for your marriage and I think you know it. It's not going to restore love and, I think you know, there was no love in that post. There was anger, hurt, and a desire for revenge. I'd say it's past time for you to be in plan b. Remember, the goal is to recapture the intimacy in your marriage, refocus and rebuild a loving marriage. Getting even, getting revenge... that will never do that.