<img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Ohhh Boy WHAT DO I DO NOW!?
I'm in plan B(Modified)
WS...came for visitation called my mom and asked if he could pop in since he was driving by.I was not home at the time,got home and he was in the livingroom with our son.
I was planning on going to Toysrus by myself..and he said " ohh it would be fun can I please come with".It would really help me feel like I was apart of our sons Christmas.(Even though I was paying)
I said no I think it's not be a good idea.Then my mom says well why not!!!..she took me aside and said It's a big deal for him.
O.k so off all 3 of us went to ToysRus.

Of COURSE he started talking.....and this is what he said!!

**I need you to help me out,so I can continue to Live in this state.I need $400 a month towards bills...please do not force me to have to move out of state in with my parents!

I will Give up both OW,and will not talk or see them again.

I will go to any counsler you wish.And will fallow there direction.

However I can't promise things will work out for us,I still don't know if we can be in a relationship,but want to start off slow.

I told him I would think about it and get back with him.

There's still the issue's of one of the OW work's next door to his work.And how do I really know he wouldn't be seeing here.

He never brought up anything about being sorry,it was more like I drove him to another, and it wasn't an affair just dating.

Nor did he bring up what he was going to do to change his anger/abusive past/and drug use.

It's a thread of hope,but what does he really want here....money or me??

Any wise advice???!!!!!

BetrayedByMyBestFriend,

I am relatively new here so I will only comment on this:

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> **I need you to help me out,so I can continue to Live in this state.I need $400 a month towards bills...please do not force me to have to move out of state in with my parents! </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">As a guy who has not held up his end of the bargain in terms of financial support( Summary: my W makes more than I do, but it's the fact that she HAS to that's the problem), this raises a red flag for me. Also, it seems like this may be held against you later(eg. If I don't go to counciling my W will cut me off). Am I totally off base here?

How does not supporting him force him to do anything? In my case it has "forced" me to re-examine my career choice and go get a second degree for something I like to do and that will give be a better chance to succeed career wise.

Whoa, I got carried away there. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Anyone else feel free to jump in on this or the other stuff. That's just my take on the money issue.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> this raises a red flag for me. Also, it seems like this may be held against you later(eg. If I don't go to counciling my W will cut me off). Am I totally off base here? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Thats a very good point!!!!