Someone please tell me how to plan A and make it stick! i feel like i have to sit on my hands to make it work and my H responds to it but then takes advantage of it as well - an example - H at football game all day and until 8 p.m. last night - H comes home but has to go to parents to pick up clothes he needs, then tells me he is going to stop and have a couple beers on the way back - i plan a as best i can, tell H that i cant stop him from going to bar but that it hurts me that he cant just come home...H responds well, tells me he understands and will get clothes and hurry home. fast forward to 10:00 - no H home, i call him and he's at the bar - hasnt even gone to parents yet. how do you plan A when dealing with that kind of BS?? I am convinced he is still seeing OW; now tonight he has to "do laundry" - mind you we have a washer/dryer, but H wants to do laundry at parents...says i am trying to control him. HELP! what am is supposed to do? its so hard not to let the anger and suspision overtake me!
My story quickly - Me 31, H 32, married 5/02 after dating 5 years, 3 ddays and multiple A's that i found out about after only being married 2 months.

Sounds like fog, not him, talking to me. Nothing my WW says or does makes sense to me either.

My advice:

Get in here and vent it out. That sure helps me. I also have a good support system of family and friends. Lean on these people when you are down. Take care.