I'm just posting to let you all know what I'm going through because I don't talk about this stuff with anyone else.
WW moved out in August to "find herself and make her decision". Meanwhile I've been doing my Plan-A for 10 months+
I let her know that she had 6 months to get herself together. Recently I have reminded her that we will no longer see or talk to each other as of Jan 1 2003. I did tell her that I love her, but also that neither she (nor anyone else) can fault me for being unsupportive or pushy and impatient. I have been kind and forgiving and supportive for our entire marriage. Further, I have forgiven her for her A. But, I have also made it very clear that things aren't going to continue like this: Seeing each other while living apart.
I am trying to be strong through all of this, even though at times I feel like crying. But I never actually cry, because it would be over nothing. It's more a feeling of disappointment and loss of respect for someone I once respected. She is not the woman I married. She has intentionally become an immature airhead (it's even affecting her job). And the OM? He's not in the picture anymore because the A burned out within a few weeks.
She still hasn't made any so-called "decision" although I have reminded her that it isn't hers to make. Her coming home means *not* being irresponsible and immature. A marriage isn't a hobby you pick up or put down when you're bored.
But again, I wouldn't have to explain this to a smart young woman, now would I? So maybe I already have my "answer".
Meanwhile, I continue to strive for my goals and I am on the very cusp of some major accomplishments. This makes me proud and gives me a feeling of *I'm okay, I'm a good person, and women will still like me* goodness.
Thanks for being here, I just wanted to post an update.