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#46467 12/30/99 08:40 PM
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Hello everyone. My computer was sick with 2 viruses so it was not working.<P>I had been praying alot the last few months for God to change my ex husbs. heart so we can be together again. Been on a roller coaster ride with lots of downslides. Was ready to give up on him and was about to force myself to move on. He had been trying to move on and forget me and when a woman went to his house for a visit, it was my cue to get on with my life. What didn't make sense was that I was still hurt by his choices and still felt God wanted us to be together. I assumed if it was not meant to be that God would take the pain and hurt away so I could move on with my life. The hurt was still there strong as ever.<P>Finally took his pic off my work desk, and made plans to go out on New Years Eve. Then out of nowhere, he calls to wish me Merry Xmas. Did alot of talking and we decided to try again. I did let him know I was not willing to just be a girlfriend and want to remarry again. We are taking it slow and trying to make a go of it.<P>So don't give up on your spouses. Pray Pray Pray!!!! Just when you ready to call it quits you will get an answer.<P>Bluestar (((hugs)))

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Bluestar,<BR>A hopeful story always makes my day. You can check my profile to hear my story. I'm fairly new to the forum and was about to give up today, but then I talked to my H.<BR>I'm so glad that things are coming around for you. You never know what God has planned for you.<BR>I'l keep you and your husband in my prayers.

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Blue star,Iven on the BB other topics since july but am new here, Your story gives me hope My H and I still are friends and I hope will grow to more once again.<BR>I hope you get whatever you dream, I'll give god a word for you tonight when I talk to him,<BR>Lesa<BR><P>------------------<BR>maybe someday<P>

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Bluestar,<P>I can relate to the prayers you are saying..I am saying the same ones to God.<BR>I am still waiting for God to make the path clear for me.<P>Your story is very heartening and I pray for you and your H to experience total marital recovery. God can unharden hearts and I still pray for Him to unharden my H's heart each and every day.<P>wishing you the very best...<P>Roll Me Away<P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>

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PRAISE GOD!!! He is so wonderful. I am thrilled for you. Pray even harder now. <P>

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This proves his word.<P>"commit to the Lord what ever you do, and your plans will succeed" Proverbs16:3<P>Thank you for shareing.<P>Bill<P><P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>

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Bluestar,<BR> Oh No,Does this mean I can't give you that cyber-smooch on New Years Eve??? Drat,the good ones always get away!But I'm happy for you.I really hope things work out for you.Have a Happy New Year!!! --Murph

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And I was beginning to think God just didn't listen. I am so happy for you. I wish I had your strength. Sounds really wonderful. Will you please use some of those special powers and pray for me and my H? Lord knows I have been for 9 months, but he must be too busy to listen to me.<BR>Nancy

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YEAH!!!<P>I was one who prayed for you, and your husband!!! I am saying "yipee!!!!!"<P>and clapping my hands so fast, that the kitten is looking at me funny!!!@<P>Now I will say a prayer to help your love endure all things.<P>God Bless.<BR>tnt<P>For anyone else, this is the prayers that Bluestar asked us to pray for on the prayer request board.<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Bluestar<BR>Always heard there is more strength in prayer when you have many people pray for the same thing. OK, I will now ask all of you here to pray for my ex husband and his sex addiction. He feels his ways are normal and I told him if that were true, while he was on the net, that if someone were to pop over he would not close down the sight he was on. So if you have to hide things it should be a clue that you are doing wrong.<BR>I am no longer praying for God to bring him back to me, because unless he changes his heart and ways, and goes back to the Lord, it will not work anyway. So I am praying that God lose the binding chain he has on my ex, give him strength to resist temptation and to soften his heart. If my exhusb does change and start obeying God again, and then wants to work on the marriage with me, I will be all for it. If he still does not, that will be ok too, at least my heart will be comforted knowing his soul will not burn in Hell.<P>He tries to discourage me and says go ahead and have people pray, it will do no good. "I am who I am, and not going to change" Yes I expect that kind of talk from him but still not giving up. He feels since he has been saved he will be ok, even if he has sex with as many women he can. I know he knows better than that. Just trying to frustrate me where I lose control of my tongue and it didn't work.<P>So will you all please help me with this. Need as much help as I can get.<P>Thanks ahead of time.<P> <BR>trustntruth<BR> Lord, I lift up Blue star to you Lord. Give her restraint over her tongue, so that while she is being attacked with those fiery darts of doubt - that she remembers you and YOUR promises, and those darts roll off her. Pour your annointing over her, as if in oil, where nothing can stick to her and cause her any doubt. Strengthen her faith.<BR>And Lord, I pray for her xhusband. Thank you for softening Bluestar's heart toward her x. I lift him up to you, and call those things that are not as if they are. Lord, thank you for softening his heart, and thank you for his agreement in letting people pray for him. Lord, I pray that your love will surround him, and that he will not harden his heart to your Holy Spirit. Lord, do not stop sending your Holy Spirit to his heart, and please keep knocking. <P>In Jesus Name,<BR>Amen<BR> <BR>lowestpoint<BR>Lord <BR>I stand against thes eevil spirits and demons who are planting these seeds of wickedness in this precious christian woman's life. Her husband is being attacked by these abhorent creatures and in the Namre of Jesus I command that they be gone. Satan - you ahve no plave in this woman's home. i also calimn this relief for my self anf the addiction that once plagued me you have healed me and I know that you can do the same for this man. Please rise up a army of warriors that will stand against this demon of lust that the internet is making so easy.<BR>Lord I lift up blue star. she is hurting and wants to find a marriage that will be for your glory lord protect her in this battle anoint her and show her that you are her fortress in this battle<BR>In Jesus name <BR>Amen<BR><HR></BLOCKQUOTE> <BR> <p>[This message has been edited by trustntruth (edited December 31, 1999).]

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Good afternoon everyone!<P>Mental: God is never too busy for you! I have felt many times like you and assumed He was too busy or maybe abandoned me. Just know that Satan is the one trying to make us think that and making us want to give up. Dont let him win!! I so look forward to the day when Satan gets his!!!!!<P>Murphy: I had told my ex that I made plans for New Years Eve. Forgot to mention that I was promised a cyber smooch when the clock was striking midnight. Will tell him later today of that special Murph. <P>Hope you have the best New Years Eve ever.<P>Trustntruth: I haven't forgot your prayers. Came onto this sight off and on just reading. Satan tried his best to beat me down this year and I kept reminding myself that God is true and He will never let me down. Your prayers were much needed and very appreciated.<P>We are trying now to work things out. He has not given his heart back to Jesus yet and I did tell him today that he needed to expand his vocabulary a bit. (tends to curse alot) I was being nosy while at his house this morning and looked at chat history with other females. I know I should not have, being it just upset me. But I am not going to let it get to me. I just asked him to delete them off. We handled our hurt different ways. He tried going out and talking with other women to try and forget me. I on the other hand did alot of praying this time. Did chat with some men online, but mainly about him and the fact that I was not ready to go out on dates yet.<P>I know I still need to pray alot, even more now. Want to have God help me to show him my love for him and help me with the problems I had that helped contribute to our fighting we had before and thus lead into divorce. I hope that one day he will become a christian again, and hopefully God will help me lead him back. I want the best for him, and for us!<P>Thank you again TNT!<P>Better get off here and get ready for tonite. Dont have a clue as to what we are doing though.<P>Everyone, I pray we all get our prayers answered for the New Year!!!!!!<P>Bluestar


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