I normally don't post in this forum but since I 'm forced into Plan B. I thought it would be wise to start here.

I know this is something I have to do. H has no respect for me, everything comes out his mouth is a lie. My thing is going through with NC .

I feel, I'm being compelled to call, when I'm only setting myself up for pain. I have to constantly tell myself please don't call.

H, I believe is seeing OW2. I no longer can endure this. It hurts to much especially around the holidays.

I wrote my letter, I'll be mailing the letter tomorrow. I know he will make mockery out of my letter showing it to family and friend saying she won't go through with this.

It's my fault my H is so cocky. I made him that way by chasing, making a fool out myself. Only because I though he was sincere. Just to find out he's stringing me along again.

I just feel this lump in my stomach. How could I have been so naive to think things would be better. One minute H is remorseful then in the last 2mos he hasn't been.I just wanted to vent.

Yes, expect him to test you. Plan for it.

Assume that these WS's are little kids who are testing boundaries. He may remain silent to "respect your wishes" - or he may get really angry.

Stand firm. You have to set conditions and stick to them, no matter what. They'll lose what respect they do have if you cave in. And a strong stance, given enough time and effort, does send a message that you won't be walked on - and deserve respect.

Thank You JR
I really have to stick to my guns on this one.
H has lost a lot of respect for me the way he treats me.

After reading, hopeful Plan B letter, the one Cerri helped her with. I will have to revise my letter making it short. I did a little LB. I will get on top of this in the AM.

Thanks again JR. I really need to put everything I have into NC

Thank God NC just for today.
I'm going to keep this up until I get it right.
I haven't sent the letter only because I don't think he will be receptive. H will look at me
being a doormat. This will be another way for him to disrespect me again, so the letter will be on hold until i get the NC down pack.

I'm doing ok so far with NC. I will continue to post on my thread, even if no one replies. I will do this for me to see my progress.

Meryy Christmas everyone
Today was real hard for me, I wanted to speak to H
so bad but I didn't. I continue with NC. I had a few drinks celebrating Christmas with a friend. The whole time my mind was on H. That's unbelieveable to think of someone who doesn't give a hoot about you. Merry Christmas everyone.

MALC
I really admire the strength you had in not contacting your H on Christmas Day. What a test!! It's hard to yearn so much for someone who doesn't seem to have the same need for contact. My X-WH and I have talked about reconciliation, and he constantly tells me how much he misses me. I've noticed, however, that for as much as I miss him, I would be seeing a whole lot more of him than he actually ever sees of me per his initiative. I am planning on going to a Plan B since he still lives with the OW and "their" baby in spite of saying how he wants out. This has gone on since June, 2002. I have decided to try and see if the pain of no contact is more manageable than the pain of unfulfilling and upsetting contact. Good luck to you as you continue with Plan B!!