It's been about 12 months since I posted here, but I found a few other infidelity recovery sites that I've frequented since then.

I have learned so much about why I did the things I did, (serial affairs). I've never grown so much in my life. Being completely "broken" is a great first step, to putting a person's life back together. Man, it was terrifying, too.

The most important change or attitude adjustment required for me, was getting a sense of gratitude. I had so much to be thankful for, that I was blind to, before dday.

Being grateful for my wife's mercy and wisdom, and repentent was pretty much just the "price of admission" for my wife to even consider continuing in our marriage.

I have found some other ideas in the reading that I did, that helped a lot, too.

Anyway, long story short, my marriage is doing amazingly well, today, 19 months after dday.

I wish the same for you all.

Here is a website that may give you and your spouse some new ideas for moving along in your healing, that I wanted to post here. It can be educational, even if you don't buy anything.

I pray it is of some help to you.

http://www.tonictouch.com

God bless,

"unmacho"