I don't know if I am posting this right. This is my first time. I recently found some things that implicate that my husband has dated or called or been with? other women while we were dating (7 years). I haven't found anything that indicates it has been during our marriage (1.5 years). I confronted him on what I found and he said that he couldn't remember what it was as well as admited to a few things while we were broken up. He admited to dating (be he called it a friend)when we first met, but decided that after a few nights out with this girl that I was the one that he wanted to be with. Ok, I get that, but he has spent 7 years lying to me about this girl and stating that she didn't exist - now that I have proof of her existance and have pinned him in a corner, he now admits that she is real and he did go out a few times with her. 6 months ago he went to a strip club with friends and lied to me several times about it and then when he couldn't lie anymore (because his friends told me the truth), he finally confessed. There are other things too, but I am just confused on what to do, what to beleive, am I being naive, am I married to a man that I don't even know? We went to therapy last night for the first time, he has committed to going weekly. Can anyone help me make sense of what I am going through?

Hi and welcome to MB,

U posted on a site that does not get much traffic. Have you read the concepts section above? What your H is doing is unfortunately, quite typical of those with deep seated problems leading them to an A or multiple As.

First we need to get you on your feet. Do you have an MC and read any of the books here?

L.

Sounds like the marriage counseling is a good start. I also highly recommend His needs her needs and Getting the love you want. Both excellent books and not too expensive. The questionaires on this site might help also.
The general questions forum is also good to visit. We are all going through similar things.
Keep posting, we are here for you
Layli