I had to share this with you. A while back I wrote about discovering pre-programmed messages on my H phone. They were just that, pre-programmed by the phone company, but a huge trigger for me.

Next, I found a false eyelash in my bathroom, I was sure it was the OW. Two weeks later I found the source.....my daughter's doll. Had a set of 4 lashes. I laughed my butt off, triggers....makes you crazy!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Anyone else find out they were wrong?

By the way, H and I are doing great. We are happily together, OW is gone, and we have started real recovery....if I can keep from triggering!!!LOL

His fog has lifted, and I can't believe how well he is treating me. I did a stellar Plan A, and finally he has started to really meet my needs again. I can't believe it, but he truely is sorry and loves me. Go figure!! D-day was August 2001!!! It was a log road, I believe the A continued for a while, but like the book says, when exposed to light, the A will die a natural death. I am happy I was patient, it was worth it and I would do it again. I think it is important to give your WS a lot of room while in Plan A. I am finally happily in love again. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Good to hear from you NJ. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

You have certainly beaten the odds especially since our last poll showed a lot of A's take place in NJ!

Please keep us updated! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

take care,
L.

new jersey…

Unfortunately, I haven’t found out that I was wrong…I have only found that I was right!!!

I do appreciate your post here because it did make me laugh out loud…really it did!!! We need to laugh sometimes too…even if it is through tears!!!

It is easy to drive oneself crazy with all of these things…I find myself trying to see who my W is IMing on the computer…if she is chatting with the OM. I even use mobile IM under another name to see if they are on-line together…Yes, we can drive ourselves crazy!!!!!

Hang in there,
WSD

PS…I don’t know your history, or if your H has admitted anything to you…but depending on where the two of you are in reconciling your marriage do you think that he would get a kick out of this? Do you think that it will give him some insight as to your emotions…your fears…your ongoing worries? What do you think…can the two of you grow from this???

Just a thought!!!!

hi nj, I too wrecked a whole day off from work by snooping on the computer to see if my former WH was doing anything wrong. I kept calling him telling him he had alot of explaining to do,only to find out I was completely wrong. Very humbling isn't it. Now I try not to get into that whole craziness. I mean I don't want to be naive and put complete trust, but I don't want to be a lunatic either. Thanks for your post.It did put a little humor in my night. Good Luck!!!

Oh, that is wonderful NJ! Think of you often!