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I need advice on how exactly to implement a plan B while still living under the same roof. To make a long story short -- H wants D ( I don't). I have tried plan A with temporary success but I realy don't know how he feels because he won't talk to me. I cannot leave our condo right now for financial and work reasons, and I have told him this. I have said that I will not be able to leave until at least June.
In the meantime, he still wants to have dinners together, know where I am, pick up stuff for him at Walmart, etc. -- YOU KNOW -- the "wifely" things.
How am I going to deal with this so-called "roommate" situation when I still love and care about him? He cannot and will not leave the condo either for work reasons.
HOW CAN I BE REASONABLE AND STILL STICK UP FOR MYSELF AT THE SAME TIME?!
God Bless and hoping for answers,
1RED
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I need advice on how exactly to implement a plan B while still living under the same roof.
You don't. While getting ready to start Plan B, you do everything necessary to implement it.
When you give him the letter, you ask him to leave. If he does not, you grab your bags & go to where you previously planned, such as a friends until you can get an apartment or move in with family.
Don't say yo can't do this. It's not easy by any means. But what are you gonna do if it comes to divorce? Then you are FORCED into moving.
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Thank you Chris. I need a swift kick in the backside to get me going. I guess I will have to find a way to implement it.
I don't think there is any alternative.
Wish me luck.
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