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Plan-B Drama!
#464933 02/04/03 12:57 PM
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I sent a loving and kind Plan-B letter to my WW (at her apt.) and three days later she called me sobbing, saying she wanted to work things out. I almost said "no" because I was finally starting to feel happy and good about myself again. But I said "yes" because, well, I love her. Maybe things will work out.

Of course, two weeks later she is acting flaky again.

So now I'm wondering if I shouldn't just call it off. I'm tired of being married to a loser.
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#464934 02/06/03 08:07 AM
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It's seems like you've been at this a long time, and you still love her.

Maybe you're getting tired? I've only been at this 1/3 as long, and I get tired all the time. I just focus on the commitment I made to God. Your W and mine could be clones -- the way they act, and what my W seems to want.

I guess I just ought to follow your story to see how mine will go, too?

A friend of mine, who'd been through this about three years ago before recovering his marriage, inscribed this in a book he gave me, called Every Woman's Desire, by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoecker:

"In the darkest days of our marriage, what kept us together was the commitment we made before God, our families and to each other. Invite God into your marriage, and He will show the way..."

God Bless!
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#464935 02/06/03 11:11 PM
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If you're just venting that's fine, but if you want advice, some more details would be helpful. What's been tried? How's she flaky? Is NC in place? A recovery plan? Are you just glad she caved and now you don't want her?
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#464936 02/07/03 12:08 AM
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Have you read Survivng An Affair?

Did you tell her in the Plan B letter that she must end the affair? Did you tell her she must agree to counseling?
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#464937 02/10/03 01:11 AM
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Taking her back without the condition that she willingly and enthusiastically submit to a plan of marital recovery (counseling with an MB oriented professional and strict application of MB principles) will only lead to a false recovery. I truly hope that you did this before taking her back.

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