Wife of 16 years unhappy in marriage, has let me know shw has wanted space for last year.
4 weeks ago wife unexpectedly files restaining order (claiming longtime abuse and fear of me)
she also told me she said she did this to get me out of the house ( cause I wouldn't leave otherwise ), (wife is using my kids as leverage, I was stay at home dad for 9 years, since 1st daughters birth), I have seen my kids 4 days in last month ( 1st 3 weeks did not see or hear from them ).
She is the one who wanted space and freedom, yet it is me who is out on own with no kids, no house, man's best friend (my dog), just flew to new home 2000 miles away.
Is there any plan I should follow, seems like I am being force directly into a Plan B mode, I have no way of being in contact with wife or else I get arrested.
Last thing my wife said to me before this happened was "drive carefully" when I left for work. I have many questions, but only myself to ask them to.
Is there a way to reconnect with wife in future, everyone I talk to says Just forget about her, and if I mention her or ways to get back together in future, they just tell me I am obsessed with her and not to even think about getting her back.
So I just tell them that it is going to have to be her that wants me back.
Is this right approach (only approach)?

Give me your ideas.
Robert

p.s. wife just started dating last week (she says), or could be just boyfriend she had all along.