How do I handle the thoughts that wirl through my head when i'm not around my wife. i found out about the OM she said that she would end it and that she only kissed him. Then about two weeks later I found out she was still talking to him (thanks to tape recording) when i asked her about it she said that there was more. She said she had bein having sex with him as well. Now she says she don't know how to tell him goodbye because the man is dying. She has said that she is avoiding him and that he will get the hint. Help me I don't know what i'm doing?

sever my heart,

I am sorry to hear about your situation. Please try to read everything on Plan A and B on this website. I know it is hard, you probobly feel like your heart and brain is in an emotional blender right now. Everyone here is here because they are going through similar situations and all are very supportive. If you need to vent this is the place. The book "Surviving an Affair" by Harley is great, I just read it. There is no way you can know where your spouse is unless you are hidden in their pocket, I am grappling with the same thoughts now with my WH. My WH works with OW, and still sees her out of work once a week. Try to stay strong, read everything you can about Plan A and good luck.

Married 4/88
2 kids 9 & 6
D Day-10/02 WH wants out of marriage, he is not been happy 4 years. We deceide to work on marriage.
1/03-WH says he is "not connecting with me" doesnt know why", I tell him maybe EA with coworker, he is genuinely surprised and agrees. I then find out Coworker wants him to move in with her.
2/03-WH tells co worker he is "not committed to her and is staying with family.



Marri