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Just how much do you give up in Plan A. She says she is leaving when she finds a place. I am not resisting it, but how much do you help financially etc. When should I see attorney to make sure I know the facts and risks.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by gambler11:
<strong>Just how much do you give up in Plan A. She says she is leaving when she finds a place. I am not resisting it, but how much do you help financially etc. When should I see attorney to make sure I know the facts and risks.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">All is depend on what is your plan A. Not helping her financially could confirm her believe that you are a mean man and not caring, if your plan A includes this you have to help her unconditionally. You have to see your lawyer to consult and protect yourself, no question about it.
Is there A or OM ? What is her excuse to leave you ?
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The day after my wife moved in with her parents (before I ever knew there was OM involved) she opened her own checking account, took a lil more than half of our joint checking account funds and put into her own, then gave me back the checkbook to the joint acount.
Of course, since she's living in OM's apt now, the only bills she has are her car payment and eating out/food......
On my salary alone, I'm slightly stretched to cover all the bills of apt, my car payment, cell phones (i still pay hers) and car insurance (yep, she's still on my policy) and health insurance (again, still on my policy)...
She's actually offered ME money to help with household expenses.
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yes, there is OM and A. She has not fully admitted it, but will not deny it, but my snooping has proven enough. Got all the signs! Says she won't admit to anything I can use against her. Says she needs time away. She has waffled from "it's nothing you have done", to saying she has been unhappy for years, which I sure did not see. There are some other factors: taking Lupron for upcoming surgery, got very depressed, daughter off to college last September, been on night shift since then. Possible midlife crisis. We work at the same location, her on nights and me on days (12 hour shifts), so we have not been seeing much of each other. Normally we are both on day shift.
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Don't confront her, you know the answer. Now, who know about A ?. What are her complaint about you in M ?. Print out ENQ and LBQ fill it as if she would answer it. See what you can get out from it.
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