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Please help. H has been having an A since 8/02. I was 4 mths pregnant. A lot has happened since then - H has his own apt. and has came back 3 times unsuccessfully (resumed contact within weeks). The baby was born in January and we also have a 2 year old. To make a long story short, my H has become the ultimate cake eater. I allow him to come over in the evenings to help me and to see the children. On "his weekend" with our 2 year old he spends it at our house. At night and on the other weekends he sees his girlfriend who lives an hour away. He wants his family and his girlfriend too.

Doing a true Plan B right now would be impossible I think as I want to allow him and the newborn to bond but I don't want the baby at his apartment. Also, I appreciate his help in the evenings bathing and feeding the children especially now that I've returned to work. While I was on maternity leave I had a property settlement agreement drawn up and told him that we would be eligible for a D in Sept and that if things didn't drastically change by then (i.e. end the A)that I would be ready to file. I really feel like I need to do a Plan B - the emotional roller coaster and his inability to decide is killing me but I can't so I thought maybe this legal action could serve as a substitute (i.e. a dose of reality).

What do you all think? I guess threatening divorce is not really a great way to try and preserve a marriage but I don't know what else to do. I can't go on living like this. I've seen people refer to a "modified Plan B" - what is this?

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by dueinjan:
<strong>I've seen people refer to a "modified Plan B" - what is this?</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">There is no plan B without good plan A. And legal action should be separate from plan B ... you do plan B then if you follow with legal action to end your M.

Plan A is not for every one ... you could do "tough love", read Love must be tough from Dobson. It is kinda plan B but with full contact ...

-rh-


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