I'm giving my 4 year old a birthday party this weekend! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Thing is, me and the H have been separated for two months. The separation is the result of a midlife crisis brought about by a EA(which is now over).

The issue is, only half the family knows, only half our friends know!

So we are going to have a house full of people and his closet is empty!

Ahhhhhhhhhh!

Why haven't we told everybody?

On my end, my parents won't be able to forgive him! I have no clue why he hasn't! I guess he doesn't want people to think he's the bad guy!

guess what he is! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

But that not the point, I'm tired of pretending!
but I'm not ready to tell my parents, not until i'm stronger! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

So I'm looking foward to a very stressful sunday!(NOT!)

Wish me luck!
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You really HAVE to let us know how that goes. It's interesting that they can justify behavior to themselves, try to convince you it's ok, but don't want anyone else to know. Is he going to try to pretend that he still lives there? Won't your child mention it to people? Makes me think he's SERIOUSLY in fog. So what's your game plan for when people ask questions? Just refer them to him? Tell them that the mafia is after him so he's staying somewhere else to keep you safe?

The evil side of me really hopes this makes him squirm. The "good witch" side hopes your child has a wonderful birthday, enjoys the cake, gets lots of presents, and doesn't get impacted too much by this stuff.

Crunchie,

Been thinking about you and the BD party all day. Wondering how it went. Post an update if you get a chance.

Sorry, been on vacation, you know how that can be!
You do anything but rest! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

The party was awesome!There were over 40 kids here, school friends and family alike, and everyone had a great time! I worked my [censored] off getting the party set up without anybodys help but it was worth it!

My sons face, when we sang "Happy Birthday" was worth anything i had to go thru to put the party together! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I'm glad I did it!

The "clueless" family and friends remained "clueless". And the ones that are in on our little "separation" kept they mouths shut! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

It was strange but at times even I forgot that we were not the picture perfect family that we pretended to be. I actually had a good time too. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

When it was over, my H recognized how hard I had worked and made a point to tell me that he appreciated my efforts. He stayed over that night and we spent monday together. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

10 weeks and counting! Patience, that what I keep asking God for! Patience!
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I am so happy your little guy had a great birthday. Play a game of "paper rocks scissors" with him and give him a big noogie for me. From reading your post, I think the friends who know about the A are wonderful for not leaking something that could have put a damper on the party.