I have strated plan A but my W has moved out of the house living with her mother and father. At the least she is still having an EA if not a PA with someone at work. I have limited contact, because that is what she has asked for. But I do text message her daily to tell her I am thinking of her and that I love her. The A has been going on as far as I can tell since dec 27,2002. She says she doesn't know what she wants, but has said she wants to give us a try, she just needs time. My question is do I continue to not have contact unless she initiates it, or do I try and get her to do things with me? I still see her at family gatherings, we do not fight, but we really don't talk either. How can I impiment the Plan, if I have little or no contact with her?? I really feel that I need to give more of plan A a chance prior to starting plan B. It has been since 2/18 that I found out, and she has been out of the house 2 weeks today. After 22 years together, 20+ of them very happy, I am sure that if she gets over the addiction of him, she will choose us. But I need to be able to hold on.

Please help