Well, it has been almost a month since I started plan A. I have created an environment in our home of that of pleasant, no conflict, no anger etc. He will hug and kiss me if I initiate it. He has not voluntarily touched on his own accord for a month. He has not said I love you once, when he used to say it after every phone call. Now nothing. I still am saying it though. We have not made love in over 5 weeks. He does not reach out in the night for me anymore. He sleeps on his back on his side of the bed, very rigid. He is being nice to me. I feel like the cattle being lead to the slaughter. I cant help think he is just placating me until our next counselling session (this thurs) and tell me "I dont love you anymore". I have done everything to avoid the LB's, filled out my EN questionnare and gave him one to fill out. He has been out of town for the 2nd week now and we have not had much time to talk intimantly about our situation for about a week. He seems to be sincere in letting me know his whereabouts. We spent the Easter weekend with our daughter at a hockey tournament and went out with friends on Saturday for a really nice dinner. He seemed to enjoy himself. We went to his Dad's for Easter dinner. When we came home my husband went out to the yard and started doing some gardening and cleaning up. He talked in a bit of a long term plan about the yard (a good sign I think)..

Anyway I just feel so unloved right now. I am trying to keep plan A in place without starting to feel resentment towards the whole situation. I know the fog is there still but god knows it has to lift eventually. I dont want to be left in the dirt after all this. I think I will e-mail him today with my thoughts and feelings. I have left him little cards in his suitcase and in his car over the last month. I gave him an easter card and gift. I got nothing in return, not even an easter lily this year. Talk about feeling rejected. I did write him another card yesterday morning but decided against putting it into his suite case. I dont want to feel like I am pushing him too fast either. But I think he needs to know how I am feeling right now and If I e-mail him, chances are my tone of voice wont show and create LB. Any suggests.

HOW LONG DOES IS PLAN A SUPPOSED TO LAST??!!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by stated:
<strong>HOW LONG DOES IS PLAN A SUPPOSED TO LAST??!!</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Plan A is forever ... we should seek toward unconditionally giving toward our mate ... however we are only mortal human being, we have takers too. One hope that H would give back plan A'ng you, this way both of you fillin each other LB$. When to stop plan A ?. When you start saying "I don't care no more about H even he is willing to work on M" or when you see opportunity to push him off the fence to decide.

Read The Language of Love, find an effective word pictures that you could use to communicate to H. Fine tune your plan A, review it and also look into ENs that he alows you to fillin.

-rh-