Well - My husband has told me that he will go to the doctor when he is ready (I think as does our counsellor that he is depressed). We were supposed to tell our daughter last night about the marriage problems and that H might leave to get his head together. This never happened. He kissed me good bye this morning (he thought I was sleeping) and called to wake us up this morning. I asked him when he plans on talking to our daughter and he said Saturday. He says he wants to work outside all day tomorrow and get some fresh air and we will tell her tomorrow. What the hell?? He has not told me if he is leaving or not, he is so confused at the moment it is irritating to me. I am not sure if I need to prepare myself for the worse or prepare to live in plan A for a while longer. I guess our daughter's reaction to this will play a role. What are these men thinking - or are they. I have been patient and supportive for him. I feel like I am going to be bulldosed over this week somehow. All I can hope is that he does leave for a while and actually do some thinking about us, his family and what he is missing by leaving. The OW apparenty lives in the US, so is not available physically in Canada. I think H is emotionally drained this week and wants to try and forget for a day his problems. That is okay, but he has to face it sometime, the sooner for me the better. I have tried to help him in every way but feel like I am baning my head against a wall. I know, time time.
Anybody else been in this position, of H thinking should I stay or should I go?? I will not leave my home and will not uproot my 14-year-old at this point. We both need the stability of our home and surroundings. I am not sure where he will go. Maybe a hotel room for a couple of weeks would cure him. He would not go to his parents or brothers places I know that. Al our friends are married with children and he would not fit in with them either.
Also, who do I tell about this S#@^%t? I have told 2 friends who think he needs a kick in the [censored], but they are woman, not in this type of situation. I have told another woman who has been in the situation and she says this is sooo common and that I have to maintain my independance and be self confident. She says there is nothing I am going to do to make him "happy". He is apparently so unhappy with him self right now that it is making him sick. (serves him right- just a small vent, sorry).
I will just wait and see what happens. I will not have my life brought down by this and I will survive - slowly though I think. I love my H alot. I am totally committed to helping him see the light but I need to stay in the light.
