Well - after 5 weeks since D-day, my husband is still living at home. He had a major melt down last week - he is depressed. I tried to get him to see a doctor on Friday but he refused, saying he did not want to be pushed into anything. He spent the whole day Saturday gardening and doing yard work - I helped along side him. I made dinner for him that night and he went to bed early. He slept much of the day away Sunday, could not get off the cough - his back I think and also sleeping all day (depression). He sounded upbeat this morning when he was at work though. He still has not told me if he is staying or leaving to get his head sorted. He still has not approached our daughter about the issues plaguing us right now. He was supposed to bring up the conversation on Saturday but it never happened. He had an opportunity last night and did not do anything again. I hope this is a sign that he is planning on staying to straighten out his head. I am at the point right now where I need to look after myself. I have been very careful about no LBing, acting very nice and generous towards him. He actually let me touch him yesterday to rub his back with linament (first time in 5 weeks he asked me to touch him) I'll take what I can get. I am not sure what tonight brings and quite frankly it is a hard thing this Plan A - keeping happy for someone who is so depressed and wont help himself. I feel like kicking him in the [censored] to get him jump started. All I can do is wait I guess. He turned off his cell phone, pager all weekend, another good sign as far as I am concerned. Usually he has these on all the time. He did not once even to anything to do with his job over the weekend. I had about 5 long distance calls on Friday (unknown number). I now have my phone serviced to have these calls identified. I think the OW is trying to call, I think I spoke to her on Friday during one of these unknown number calls. Person called asking for my husband's assistant at work. Weird.
Anyway - Anyone else out there at this point. I would like some advice as to how long I let him go through this depression before I insist he get help or get out.
