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My H left yesterday. He is going to stay with his mother until he gets his head sorted out. He does not know how long that will take. He did not really take much with him. He left his slippers, two bathrobes, and chest of drawers full of clothes. We have plans to go away on the weekend (as a family) for mother's day. I asked him about a wedding invitation for June and if he wanted to go and he said yes. He is making some plans for the near future. Do I still plan A him?? I am trying hard not to show my hurt and pain but could not stop crying when he left yesterday. He hugged me with one arm from behind and left. He called twice yesterday after he left. He called this morning to make sure my daugher and I were up and okay.
He has a counselling session next week. I wonder if I should make an appointment myself and go to the same counselor and indicate my goals and steps towards rebuilding my marriage. I want the counselor to be on the same page. I also want him to know that I am plan A'ing and will be patient. I know he cannot influence my H on my decisions, but I can make him aware that H has definite fog/depressions/mid life crisis that needs to be dealt with. His friends are really concerned about him now, and have voiced this. I am going to do the 180 thing and begin living well and looking good etc. I will take his calls, go out with him but not pressure him into any relationship decisions right now. I hope this is the right path to take. Any thoughts from you plan A'ers??
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Can I still plan A??
Yes.
He is going to stay with his mother until he gets his head sorted out.
Don't be surprised if oyu find out he gets more messed up because he is probably going to be seeing ow more, now that you are "out of the picture."
I asked him about a wedding invitation for June and if he wanted to go and he said yes.
Personally, him going to a wedding now is a BIG kick in the gut to the institution of marriage and to the couple getting married. Perhaps after he faces up to everything he has done and "seen the light" so to speak, it would be acceptable.
I wonder if I should make an appointment myself and go to the same counselor and indicate my goals and steps towards rebuilding my marriage.
Have you considered calling Steve Harley (1-888-639-1639)? He IS absolutely on the page of saving your marriage.
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