I guess I am officially in plan b. I usually post on pregnancy/child board, as my WS had A that produced a child. D day was two years ago.
WE now are officially separated, since H continues to see OC against my wishes and lack of joint agreement and has some contact with OW. He also admits to caring about her as well. I don't think he is still sexually active with her, but with his lies, who could know for sure.
He finally moved out last night and I filed in court for legal separation two months ago. Now we will be finally dealing with financial ramifications of child support and custody. I want full custody, he does too. I doubt he will get it.
My question is- I was advised by Steve Harley to file given H's lack of caring for my feelings and his continued lies and lack of making me feel safe and secure. I was beginning to hate and loathe him. I think plan B is probably indicated.
He has been out of house two days now, and my children, two under 10, are constantly calling him. He of course wants the calls. The problem is that children then want me to talk to H-to work out whatever we have to work out so daddy can come home. H told kids I asked him to leave-I then told them H had done some hurtful things to me, and unless he changed some things, he cannot live here. IF he does, he is welcome back.
NOw, what is plan B exactly? no contact with H except when he talks about kids and plans to pick them up and see them? nO email, phone, etc? What is my role here? I have appointment with Steve this week, I hope, but don't know what to do in meantime. I still hope for some reconciliation if H and I can ever agree, but right now it seems remote. What are your suggestions? I need help!
And thanks!
