Well - just spent a nice weekend away with my H and daugther. We stayed in a really nice hotel. I was not sure which bed I was to sleep in, but at one point my husband said, we will have to sleep in the bed by the window, due to the outlet for his breathing machine. I said okay. At one point in the early morning he drap his arm around me and was very close to me. It felt great but I did not jump him or anything, I just let him do this hug. I did not grab his hand at all when we walked throughout the day. At one pont he put his arm around me to guide me across the street. This from a man who has not even so much as touched me now since D-day. I am not sure if him moving out to 'sort his head' is finally working, it seems like a small sign to me. We had a nice dinner and he and my daughter played a game and we ordered room service for breakfast and watched a movie. When he brought us home, Sunday he stayed for dinner - even helped make it and did the dishes afterwards. When he left he hugged me for a while kissed me twice and asked if I had a nice weekend. I said I had and thank you. (it was so hard not to cry at this point). He said he had a good time as well. He is coming back Wednesday (after his appt. with counseller that day for dinner).
My question is to you guys - do I still plan A, leave him alone as far as physical affection goes and wait still, OR do I slowly show him that I would reciprocate the affection if he is willing. I think he is finally realizing that I do forgive the A and want our marriage to work. I think he still has a lot to work out in his head. I do want him home though and soon, I do not want "outta of sight out of mind" to occur. I just want him home so that we can work together on the marriage. It is kinda of hard to work on the marriage when there is the distance. I know, be patient but it is going on 2 months in a couple of weeks since D day. I still think he has depression and hopefully the counsellor will point this out to him.
He is making plans for long term things with me such as different social occasions and a resort weekend that he won last year, he wants me to phone the resort and book a weekend in June.
Anyway, I need to get to work, any thoughts, plans, etc would be greatly appreciated.
