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my h started his a in dec,2002 i found out april 9, 2003 we started marriage counsiling about 4 weeks now. he says he is confused doesn't know what he wants but he really has strong feelings for other woman 14 yrs his jr. he is 51. he has been calling me everyday this week 3+aday, and everyonce in awhile he says i love you before he hangs up. he has had no contact for 10 days now. he called and told her he needed to work on the marriage.this is his first A. i thought we had a good marriage he says not really . the sex is not so good for about 3 yrs. now i don't know what happened it just did.i know we can fix it. i don't know if he will.i am confused but getting stronger everyday. atleast o/w lives out of state.
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sorry found out about A 3/23 i don't know were i got 4/9 from. i was more nuts then than i am now i guess! de
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How did your H to agree to NC with OW?
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oh yES! 4/9 my H. and i were on the way to our first marriage counseling session when i kept pressing him don't tell me in front of the counselor tell me now did you have sex he had said no every time i asked i think i new the answer before i really got it. so he finally confessed yes they had oral sex because he couldn't get an errection. how is that for guilt! maybe not guilt he has to use viagra but still it didn't help him in this case.
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from reading m/b i told him n/c or out. he left for one day came back. two days later H. came home from work early told me and my 3-kids he ended it with o/w. {he didn't want to he didn't know what he wanted but agreed to work on marriage. it has been 13 days now he seems alittle better, but he is still in and out of pain.
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