Well - I have not posted here before but found the postings quite helpful and informative. My story -

My guy and I have been together for 7 years. Mostly good. He has had a problem with infidelity his whole adult life. "Yes - I was the one who was going to change him!" We are not married - we were engaged to be married and kept putting it off for various reasons. Not because we didn't love each other but because we both felt that in our hearts we had already made the vows. Silly I know.

Anyway, he had an affair three years ago - the fog lifted very quickly in that instance and we reconciled 5 weeks after the affair began and made new commitments to one another. We had a baby girl in March of 2002 - she is beautiful and the love of our lives. On March 7, 2003 he said that he didn't love me anymore and hadn't loved me for two years - and moved out that day. On March 9, he moved into an apartment with a girl we had known through hot air ballooning. I am sure I wasn't suppose to know about it but I do. I have also heard rumor that they are in love and getting married. I know this is not real but it hurts very badly.

I felt that I couldn't handle seeing him - I told him that I didn't agree with his new found lifestyle and I didn't want my daughter to think that what her father was doing was ok? - we tried because of Skylar to be civil and see each other twice a week. But it hurt everytime I saw him and saw him wearing a new outfit or a new haircut, etc. - so I asked him for some time and he gave it to me. He called once in 1 month - to see if I was planning to ever let him see Skylar again. It was a very strange conversation. I didn't talk much so it was a 10 minute phone call with a 3 minute conversation.

I felt stronger last week so I left him a note on his car that I was ready to talk whenever he was. He of course - didn't call so I had to call him for the child support and found out that he was going out of town over Memorial Day weekend to meet the OW's grandmother and aunt in Arkansas (about a 15 hour drive). I am so hurt - I can't beleive that he would go or that OW would take him - she was in a long term relationship also up until her and my guy moved in together. How sick is that????

Anyway, I was hoping that it was a bust. That they had a miserable time - but I don't know. He called the day after he got back to town and asked if we could get together on friday evening to talk - maybe at his dads house - if that was OK. I told him that I wasn't sure what my plans were but that he could call me on friday and I would let him know.

I have decided to let him come to the house and play with Skylar until she goes to bed and then we can talk. He hasn't seen her in 1 month except for about 15 minutes.

So there you have it. I do want to work things out with him but and not sure how to??? I am not sure how to help him get over her??? I am not sure how to use the techniques in Plan A in this situation??? I don't want to blow any chances I may have to make a great impression on him tonight!!! Please help!?!?

how did your meeting with your b/f go? curious! hope it went well. de

how did your meeting with your b/f go? curious! hope it went well. de