my h. just called me from his job which he does about 3x a day since A. he called just to say hi and see how i was doing i asked how he was doing and he said he didn't feel too good. i asked was it physical or emotional? he said emotional, i said are you thinking about o/w he said yes i said i was sorry i wish i could take away his pain, he said it is not your fault i will be ok. he had to go back to work so that was it.I feel like my judgement is so clouded i am afraid to think positive. is this good that he tells me this or is this just bad? we have been married for 28 yrs.this weekend 7/7 we are going away to newport for the weekend. i am a little nervous we have not been intimate for months. D-day 3/23 n/c with o/w since 4/20. started emotional A 12/02.A started 1/03. she moved back to her home out of state about 4 hrs. away. at least i don't have to see her. I have been A-ing now for about 4-weeks maybe longer. we never fight. one night in the beginning i lost it called him every name in the book next morning i apologized he said no he deserved it i think it maid him feel better that i slammed him.i wish i relly new what he was thinking. he talks in counseling which is good but hard he says he still feels like he really loves o/w no change in his feelings for her. it has been 13 days with n/c is this normal? what a tangled web...... de