I originally posted in GQII. And recieved alot of helpful suggestions there.

Immediately after I confessed my A to H we started Plan A. Thing have been getting better slowly but surely. As to be expected. Our MC is very helpful. We've only had 2 sessions. But have made significant progress during and between sessions! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> After last nights session H confessed to lying to me about having unresolved feeling for his ex-w about 6 months ago. He said he lied to see what kind of reaction I would have. My reaction was that he need to resolve these feelings anyway that he needed to. I told him at that time, that we would only have problems as long as he held feelings for her. Well turned out that it was just a ploy to see what I would do. After he confessed that, we both exchanged hurtful words(lots of LB's). That didn't last long we both calmed down and resolved the issue instead of continueing the heated arguement. I was(still am) very hurt that he would tell me that and at the time say he didn't want to tell me that because he knew it would hurt me. Even though it was a complete lie.

Enough about that. Our relationship as gone back to being like it was in the begining. We've fallen "in love" with one another all over again. With an occasional outburst about the A. I understand and let him get his feelings out, and try to get mine out without and LB's. It's hard sometimes. When we both LB it makes me feel like we start all over again, with the hurt feelings.

I've tried to encourage H to post his thoughts here. Hopefully he will.