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it has now been 7-weeks since my h ended all contact with o/w. he seems to be calming down abit h is not so crazy. he is still very confused. he goes to counseling. we both go to marriage counseling. i am working on me.going to the gym. reading alot. going to the beach. we allso do alot more together now. he is really trying but still in the fog. it is a long process. married-28yrs.e/a12/02 p/a01/03 d-day4/9/03 n/c5/20/03
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You have to learn what ENs of his did OW fill in. You have to learn to do it. Hope you have a pro-M conselor.
Hang in there, w/ OW out the picture, it is a matter of time the fog will be totally lifted. Make sure there is no contact
-rh-
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thank you red hat i am trying very hard to meet all his needs. his biggest complaint was that we did not spend enough time together. we spend alot of time together now. we go to the gym together. we go out together every saturday like a date night. we go to our sons baseball games about 3x a week together. we run errands together. we go for long walks together. every sunday morning we go to breakfast with a few friends. he seems like he has calmed down a bit but he still feels like he doesn't know what he wants. thank you again for your reply, de
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You should try to bring back old happy memory in your M ... go to places or do things that bring back happy days. Also remind him gently ... "do you remember ... ". If you go to a new places ... hope you could create a kodak moment <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> . -rh-
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