Ok, so I have a long story just like everyone else. I am a newbie so forgive any missed acronyms.

I found out last week WW was having an EA with her boss while she was on travel over the past 3 months almost. Once discovered WW was remorseful, but is unsure of what "WW wants" and can't fully committ to saving our marriage at this time.

The thing is, since he is her boss she wouldn't be able to cut off communication with him until Aug 9th at the earliest and we live in the same city. WW (or we) will be relocating in 4 months depending on the outcome. She does not want me to tell his W because that will threaten her job and his. WW is very career driven at this time and it's the most important thing to her at this time.

So I figured plan B since she's still involved and unable/unwilling to end it there. But I also want a chance to be able to meat her EN's and give me a chance to build up my Love Bank. I have done a few LB's unfortunately. WW is separating to "clear her head" of course this weekend and is moving closer to where her new job may be which happens to be closer to him and my work. I'm unsure if we'll have a resolution on us by the 4 month move date since there's a chance of not being able to cut all communication with him.

Would moving to Plan B be best since we probably won't have a chance at Plan A? I'm not sure if I should tell his W either, WW will end up hating me for ending the EA and possibly her job.

Thanks for any help and input!

<small>[ July 09, 2003, 11:59 PM: Message edited by: Eduard ]</small>

Eduard,

Why you enable your WW's A ? ... Find a way to exposed the A .... don't have to be you. Otherwise you are just helping her become cake eating monster.

-rh-

That's the hard part. Either way if it's exposed at this time her career will be in Jeopardy. And if it is exposed she may think it was me. I guess I'll just have to try to find a way of doing it without "doing it".

Thanks.

Eduard,

If you have a prove (time & date of hotel reservation or phone log ...) call anomously to OMW and give her the tips. Wait and see what happen, let her do the work for you. You could also tips HR if there is action.

In order to wake the WS up ... they have to face the reality. They have to see it and feel it the cost of A. Until then WS still is addicted to A & OM and you just enabeling it. My ExW's A is not start showing cracks until the judge decrease the support ... they lived comfortably with my money for awhile.

-rh-

I have an email that shows my proof and have been pondering going and seeing her in person to tell her. I have met her a few times and talked to her before this. She is a really nice person and I know deserves to know about this which makes it hard.

I'm afraid of doing such a big LB with telling that my Love bank will be empty with my W.

Email is very easy ... get a free email, forward that email to that address then strip your own info then resend it to OMW.
-rh-

That would work out well, but what I meant was I have an email as my proof but don't have OMW's email address.

The other man and my W know I have the email proof so it will come back to me somehow.

Still thinking about this and may wait wait till Plan B goes into effect this weekend.

Thanks for all of your input and help Red