i probably am getting over anxious asking this question hoping that it will happen sometime soon. if you were living seperately and the WS was ready to move back in what were the accomodations? same bed, same room, different rooms, who got the master bedroom, those types of things? kind of an odd question but if my wife came back ready to move in tomorrow i dont think i could sleep in the same bed yet. i think it would be to stressing to both of us. this is one area that i have not seen addressed here and was just very curious about it and want to be prepared

Couch for 3 days, lots of talking......then recovery s@x......wild and I have a new baby to prove it. Recovery is great when both want it. It was like being newly wed again and it hasn't stopped in 2 years. We found each other again and won't let go.

The affair was a wake up call that we needed we time. We figured out each others needs and the rest if HISTORY. It has to be history, you can't throw it into the WS's face. You both need to recover, but don't use their affair to win an argument. Trust me, you will come out smelling like a rose and your WS will love you all the more for being a bigger person. You have a right to talk about it, get your feelings out etc., but you have to move foward, we are so different now, yet so the way we were. I wish you luck, only do what you feel is right. JMHO. I'm a child of a WS, so this is not so unfamiliar to me, might have made it easier. Best of luck!

Good question, I hadn't even thought of that either but I'm not even close to that point yet so I'm not going to bother.

You probably have to go with what you both feel comfortable with. If you get to that point, talk it over with her and see what she thinks. She might be thinking the same or opposite so it'd be hard to give advice with only your input.

If it were me, my first instinct would be to jump in bed but like you said it'd also be pretty stressful. Maybe gradually working your way from the couch (in the same house) to the same bedroom would be easier?