it has been one week since my H. has moved out he was staying at my daughters house for a few days. but now he has his own place. i gave him Plan B letter but he kept calling my son's cell phone and saying he had to talk to me about our finances so it was hard to have no contact all though we probally could have worked it out so we did not have to talk. anyway i am feeling very confident this time around. i gave him another letter today as he came to pick up my son. my son was outside waiting ready to go so i would't have to see my H. but i was outside talking to a painter we hired to do some work and he came over and started talking so i didn't say anything to him i just walked in the house and then he left. this is really hard but i know this is what i need to do otherwise he will stay sitting on the fence. i think i need some words of wisdom or just support from you all. it really does help to hear from others. thank you to everyone what a great web-site. de

Hi Dekicks,

When I gave my plan B letter a few weeks ago, I had some doubts. W has broken Plan B a few times, but I never respond. She's given me a letter, called, instant messaged me but I haven't responded to her directly yet. Always through the "liason".

Stick to your guns. Plan B is to protect you. I found myself set back and not sure what to think when she broke the Plan B NC with a letter. The fog can and will make the person either say things that make you unsure either way.

Also, it looks hypocritical when you break your own plan if you initiate contact. Honestly, I used to hope she'd break plan B but now I really don't want her to.

Be careful becase Plan B can be used against you to manipulate you from the WS if they wanted to.

The only time you should have contact if possible in Plan B is when they decide to reconcile and agree to the plan of recovery.

The only time you should have contact if possible in Plan B is when they decide to reconcile and agree to the plan of recovery.
Or unless it concerns the kids.

<small>[ July 26, 2003, 01:16 PM: Message edited by: Chris -CA123 ]</small>

Right. Sorry, I don't have kids so I guess I forgot that part.

I had a slip up today, she called me 4x saying it was important so I gave in. Ends up she wanted to find out what I told the OMW's W because she called her. She then proceeded to give me the riot act and try to twist things to her point of view when clearly she was in the wrong. And how I had made things that much worse and didn't do what I said I would (when I did). That she felt threatened by OMW's W and how she has to work 2 more weeks with OM that will be like "hell". I tried holding out on doing LB's but in the end couldn't <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> I had asked her several times for her address when she moved out, but she never gave it to me. She told our liason the other day she didn't feel comfortable in doing so. I told her I sent the OMW's W a letter after that.

The truth of the light can hurt........

she called me 4x saying it was important so I gave in.
Why?