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#466965 07/27/03 09:22 AM
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Hi all:
Quick updtae. Most who have posted replies to me know that I am in Plan B for the past two weeks.
I just talked to my WW sister on the phone on Friady. She said things are not going well between her and the OM. Not sure what that means,but it is clear that based on what I heard WW has some anger issues with her family, because they have supported the boys and me thru all of this. She is still drinking. My SIL reported to me that the OM has slept w/ three other woman during his affair with my WW. He knows that I have slept with her too. My SIL reports that now their relationship is not good, because of , ironically trust issues. (Geez, I am so surprised).
But, the real issues hereare her inability to put the alcohol down.
For me the affair and trying to Plan A thru all of this was touogh enough with the booze.
I saw my attorney last week, (and we are at NC level).
But, While several others have suggested I wait 60 to 90 days to file, the picture is fairly clear for me.
I have an appointment with my attorney next Wednesday to file for divorce. It is the only way.
I feel very ready to move on now.
And, she has just been incredibly destructive to the children.
And, she will just have to live with the lesson she is about to learn.
I really feel that I Plan A'd her for too long. Should have Plan B'd her sooner. And about the time I was going to, she decided she wanted to come home. Got treatment, and started seeing,contacting Om again, and started back drinking again.
It has been well over a year now, she has lived with him for eleven months and ther really is no hope for reconciliation as far as I am concerned.
So, with all that has been said, I am filing on Wednesday.
I want to thank all of you who helped me. The information and insight have been invaluable to me. It really made me look at myself.
I truly believe that if alcohol was not involved, the chances of recovery might have iimproved.
But, she will have to hit bottom on her own and determine what she wants from life.
I have determined what is best for the boys and me. And,it is not reconciliation with her.

I'll keep you posted from the Divorced/Divorcing threads.

Best to you all!!!

#466966 07/27/03 10:10 AM
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Gregg,

Bon Voyage!. We are going to miss you here however lurked once in a while to help others in the similiar situation as yours. If you read Honey on GQII and others who has Alcoholic WS, you could see the final chapter ...

Working on detox & getting out of the Alcohol is a must before she could work on anything. How could she ... she is not herself !. You are talking to the substance.

I want to stick here, too much hurt and soo little help.

-rh-


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