after about 3 months of me plan A-ing and a week of plan B my H. came home. He is totally done with the Affair with the o/w. we are going to set up counseling again. everything is going to be so different and better. i guess we are finally starting recovery. thank you all so very much. rookie i will be praying for you. i feel like i owe you so much. you really helped me rookie i will keep everyone updated. love, de

Congratulations! I have never posted to you but have read your posts. I wish you well and hope for the best. NW

now what, thank you for your reply i read some of your posts i hope it all turns out well for you. just keep reading and posting i will look for your updates. de

De, no thanks needed, simply your prayers.

Good luck to ya, but keep on your toes, protect yourself.

Rookie

dekicks, what good news. And I ditto what rookie said: keep on your toes.

dekicks,

Don't forget to update us and also put your sucess story out there once both of you out of the wood and well into recovery.

Good work <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> . -rh-

update! so far everything is going pretty good, i still have a problem trusting my H though.i think it will come with time we went to a ball game to watch the redsox's play the oriole's at camden yards in baltimore. we're from boston so we are big redsox fan's. we stayed in a very posh hotel in annapolis. we were not intimate my husband couldn't. i think it is guilt. we talked alot, which was really good. he kisses me the way he use to. very nice! he tells me he loves me the way he use to. however it is still a bit strained. it has only been one week since he came home so i think we are progressing nicely. we still are going to marriage counseling. thank you all again you have all been very helpful. de

De...awesome, I hope that things keep going so good for you both!! I think things will be less strained as time passes!! I only hope to one day also have good news to post about my M, but in the meantime, its great to hear someones elses good news!!
Michelle

well he did it again my h had contact with other woman. i kicked him out again today. he still says he doesn't know what he wants. but i am going to make alot of changes this time. i am not taking him back so easy this time if he does want to come back. i really love my h. with all my heart. he says he loves me. but isn't in love with me. i told him he has to be sure he wants his family and is totally done with the o/w. and we need to sit down and he has to write her a good by letter that i have to approve. things have to definitly change. this is so hard. i'll keep you updated. love, de

Good grief, I just get so tired of reading rollercoaster stuff....its so depressing. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> Hang in there young lady and God Bless You! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Hi De,

So sorry to hear that. I know you were so excited. What a terrible thing H did to you
again. Keep hanging on, and do what's best
for you from now on. Did H really want to
come back in the first place, or did he do
it for you??? That's the million dollar
question. Anyway, he should not have got
your hopes up like that. I wouldn't trust him
at this point either, and it set your trust
that much more back for him. What a let
down!! But I know you can bounce back, and
stand, not sure about your H though.

Sent with Love, Ladysheep

de,

Do you how many times Orchid has to kick her WH before it is finally got into his head ?. Ask her directly <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> . Hang in there. You are doing the right thing, at this point it is beyond plan A/B ... it is tough love !.

-rh-

it has been 3 weeks since i kicked my h out. o/w is from maine she moved down here to mass. 2 days later and he moved in with her. he says he is very happy and very in love with her. he thinks he tried at our marriage because he moved in and out and went back and fourth but he never seperated from her.i tried to exsplain to him we can't work on us while he was still having contact with her. but he really thinks he tried. i see him on the football field 4xweek this is hard because i want to be there for my son i always have been so hasn't my h. i don't know if i should split the time up so we don't have contact. would it make a difference? my h has never missed any of my son's football or baseball. he has missed 2 practice's and been late twice. left early once out of 9 times,since he moved out. i am so confused it looks bad to me. i'm thinking the worst, but people tell me it won't last they are both selfish people.i asked h. if he wanted a divorce and he just says what is the rush? what kind of an answer is that? i am loosing faith but i know i have to soldier on and be strong for my son and my daughters even though they are older. my 19 yr. old daughter is having a baby in about 2-weeks she doesn't speak to her father. they haven't talked in over 2-months she will not allow him to see the baby. he has caused so much damage.he hasn't even tried to fix it between the two of them.i could really use some advice. love, de