I have been reading about plan b but I'm not sure if it's the right time. I just found out 2 days ago that my h still has very strong feelings about ow. I truely didn't know that. Now, he is acting like it is over. He says he'll keep trying, but will give me no hope at all (because he says he won't crush me again). I do feel like he has made up his mind and that he wants her, but he says he loves me and is trying. He won't even give me a time frame on how long until he makes a decision. He keeps saying things that make me think he has already chosen her: he told me I could make it without him and would find someone who was better than him for me, etc.
My delima is this: We need the following things to happen...he needs to switch his shift work so that he will not be working side-by side with her any longer, so that he will only see her occasionally. (I haven't ask him for that yet, I don't even know if he'll even consider it).
We need counseling, both IC and MC. I called to schedule an appt for myself. He has agreed to "look into counseling" but he doesn't think there is anything they could do for him.
The last thing we need to do is Plan B. So, do we separate then do counseling and job switching....or do we try counseling and job switching first and then try Plan B? My kids have no idea anything is going on, so I don't know how to handle telling them, or when I should tell them. I want to do what will be easiest on them.
Thanks for your help.
<small>[ August 05, 2003, 09:37 AM: Message edited by: Daizy ]</small>
