EXbf.....2 kids by HS sweetheart....cheated on her and had a 3rd child by another woman. Dated you and had an affair several years ago......he has a 4th child by you. Umm....ding, ding, ding........4 children by 3 different woman and he cheated on all of yall the whole time. Ding, ding, ding........A TIGER DOESNT CHANGE ITS STRIPES. His poor decisions are part of his personality
I don't come here for this type of advice. No one does. We all want to here that our WS will be at our doors crying any day now. But each case is different. Yours is especially severe, because you now need to realize that you are the ow. It is sad that he has put you in this position. I have to tell you that I feel like the ow sometimes. When my wh is not home and I know that he is with her, when he doesn’t call and say goodnight to the kids and I know he is with her. When I check his account and see that he’s been to a restaurant…I wonder did he go with her. I’m sitting at home with his kids and I’m wondering does he remember them. I honestly feel like I’m the ow. The papers I have on him mean nothing if he refuses to end contact and come home.
This certainly seems like a punishment. Like Ha, Plan B...I'll show her. This is a very childish game and very serious issues are at stake. You need to move on. And don't give him a second thought. You said that you believe this is the man you are supposed to be with. I believed that my xbf (that married another woman shortly after me) was the man for me to. He married her and in the same week or so asked if I would be his mistress. Ha, very funny. I really truly feel your pain. But from experience I can tell you that if he really does love you, which he probably does in his own little way (which may be no good for anyone) He will think about you. The little house she bought for the two of them will probably be his little Hell - because if he loves you, he will remember your green pastures every day and the pastures on "OW" sides will get browner and browner...what he has in his heart for you will destroy his marriage. But, he'll fight. He probably wants his m to be the success of his life, so he'll fight - but if he is in love with you he will lose. If he hangs in there long enough he may eventually fall in love with his W. But by then their m will be in terrible shape. I think you are better than this. I think your time is more valuable. I think that if you believe that this is the man God intended for you....that God will bring him back for you well conditioned. And I think that it is safe for you to move on and leave it in God's hands. Take care of you and the baby <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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