I started a new topic for you. Again please edit your email address for you own safeguard. I copy star*fish's guideline for plan B letter
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Let me give you the guidelines for the letter:

Things that need to be in a PBL

• I love you.
• I married you for life. I want to stay married to you
• I am willing to do what it takes to be the spouse you've always wanted and to address the things I did wrong in the marriage.
• The affair/neglect/abuse is so painful for me that it will destroy the love I have for you. In order to protect those feelings I must end all contact with you.
• As soon as the affair/neglect/abuse is over I would love to talk with you about our future.
• Until that time please respect my wish for no contact whatsoever
• In an emergency you can reach me through______.
• Arrangements for seeing children and handling finances are_____.

It should be short and non-accusatory. The point of the letter is to let him know that you love him forever and want him to come home, but that you want to protect the love you have left before his actions destroy it completely.

I'm so sorry it has come to this. But some time to spend concentrating on yourself and protecting your feelings, may be just what you need. There is alot of support on this board for folks in Plan B. Everyone will help.

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</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Or just copy the one in SAA.

-rh-

<small>[ September 03, 2003, 12:16 AM: Message edited by: alwaysbeenfaithful ]</small>

<small>[ September 03, 2003, 12:17 AM: Message edited by: alwaysbeenfaithful ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by PandJwillsurvive:
<strong>Here is my Plan B letter that I gave to my H on Sunday evening. What do you think? Also, is there a key for all of the abreviations people use such as D-Day and so forth? I had a talk with my H last night and he said he realllyyy misses me and misses talking with me. I'm not sure what his motives are for saying this; if he truly feels that way or if he is saying it in hopes that I rescind my no communication with him approach. He also has been answering our 5 year old sons question of Dad, will you come back and live with us, by saying maybe, and the next day said probably will come home. What do you make of this too?
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I am not a good critique since English is my third language. Plus you had handed the PBL letter anyway otherwise I will get Chris to help you out. I am not too keen on minor LB and you did pretty good job staying away from it. How does he react to it lately ?.

Don't try to guess WS's words ... just don't even pay attention to it until WS comes to you and agrees to work on M. Guessing & listening could drive you nuts and sometime drop your LB$ very quick.

How do you spend time w/o WS ?.

-rh-

<small>[ September 03, 2003, 12:20 AM: Message edited by: alwaysbeenfaithful ]</small>