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I need some ideas from anyone who has had to communicate with WS on Plan B. I have been very dark on Plan B for about a month. I need WS to sign several documents concerning vehicle registrations.
I want to remain as dark as possible. Please give me some suggestions how others did it when they had to.
PS. Plan B so far isn't doing anything according to my D. Say WW has not mentioned my name once and isn't the least bit curious about anything I am doing since I implemented NC.
I mentioned in earlier posts that I was going to try to get my D full time, but D wanted to ask WW instead of me. D asked WW if she could just spend the weekend with me. WW countered with "Why don't you spend the next three weeks with you dad until my surgery." And she said it in a enthusiatic way according to D. WW is anxious to get rid of D to spend as much time with OM as possible before her sexual dry spell.
WW is having complete hysterectomy 3 weeks from now and wants D to stay with WW to take care of her for 3 weeks following the surgery. D doesn't want to go but feels like she owes it to her mother. My D is showing a whole lot more responsibility, generosity and love than my WW is showing to D or me.
D is of course hurt that WW only wants her around when she wants something. I think this behaviour is as irrisponsible and uncaring as any WS I've heard of since coming to this forum. I am beginning to wonder, what would I have if she came back?
D confronted WW about OM being a "drunk". WW admitted he is a "drunk", but he didn't threaten to kill his W and kids as OMW told me. Who's lying? Who knows....
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Monty:
<strong>I need some ideas from anyone who has had to communicate with WS on Plan B. I have been very dark on Plan B for about a month. I need WS to sign several documents concerning vehicle registrations.
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Get a mediator or get a middle person from the most netural family member.
Monty, I would start to send your D to IC. In the face of addiction (A) your D try to be the saviour ... it is fine but she has to understand the nature of this addiction, it would suck everything on their path.
-rh-
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