My husband and I were married in Jan earlier this year. We have a young son. I discovered a long time ago that he had been having sexual encounters over the internet. With 3 big blow ups several months apart he vowed never to do it again. Three weeks ago I found an unfamiliar number on our home phone bill. I questioned him about it and he argued with me for not trusting him. After much prodding he came clean. He has been talking to a woman from ut of town for over a year via email and just recently started talking to her on the phone. I was away with our son visiting family for a week he took this opportunity to engage in phone sex as well an innocent discussion with this woman. After this discovery I began to question another trip out of town I took with the baby and what may have happened then. Upon discussion and his supposed efforts to be honest he told me that when I went away last time he had meet a local woman online in a sex chat room and proceeded to go to her house and have sex with her.

So that is what he has done. I know that our marriage is new and has been rocky. I accept that had I met more of his emaotional needs he may not have strayed. We start counselling on Thurs this week. But I realized in the middle of the night last night he is still up to his old tricks. He said he can't control it. But getting past my pain to try and fight for my marriage is too hard to have him just smack me in the face when he gets back on the net or calls this woman. No we are in GA and she is PA but has told him if it will help him decide who to choose she will come here to visit.

I have asked her to back off but she won't. I am at my wits end. I am a stay at home mom and am having trouble caring for my son because of the stress. I thought of going back to Canada at least for a visit so I can be surrounded by friends and family. But I am afraid if I go it will be a green light for him to cheat. At the same time he is doing it under my nose so what is the difference? I would appreciate some advice. What should I do?

BH

bhampton,

I sugest you not to separate but get one of your family member to come instead to help out. I know it is rough but you have to hang in there and vent in here. This is also for legal issue. For now, don't do anything if you are not sure until you talk to your MC.

-rh-