No one is responding. I feel so desparate. Plase help. I don't kknow what to do. I need someone to talk to.

Post over in the "Just Found Out" Forum...very active over there and your questions will be addressed! They will take a minute to ponder the correct answers for you!

BH,
But you have received responses.
Are you not happy w/ what we have posted?
I realize and respect the urgency that you are feeling.
I have been there my self and feel an urgent need for answers, help, input, hugs, etc. from time to time still.
What I have learned through all of this is that it takes time and patience.
READ and learn more in the MB concepts.

And please please do not give up.
And please please do not go away just because you may not like what someone here may say i response to your pleas.
We understand, more that you could even wish to know.
Hang in there kiddo.
There is always hope.

xo
Hypatia

No I am very pleased with the responses. I was feeling very desparate yeasterday and had decided in my mind to leave him because the emotional abuse of him not willing to stop his destructive behavior. Counseling was always an option for me. I was even trying hard to avoid LB and meet his EN but to no avail he continued to meet on internet etc. He is a Computer programmer so no internet is not an option. I am tired of being a cop. All he does is find better ways to hide it.

In an attempt to work things out and at apoint where we were feeling good about the future he got intimate and he actually described his encounters with these other women in an effort to turn me on ( so he said) I was physically sick. I have had enough but am finding it hard to walk away. So instead I am returning to Canada to visit family and take a break from this, some time for myself. I believee when I return I may be able to approach this battle with renewed vigor. I hope during my abcense he decides to commit himslef to his family. If not then there is only one decision left to make. Thanks for all the support.

BH

May peace and patience be w/ you BH.
And if you can, post while you are visiting your family.
My prayers are w/ you and your marriage.

BTW, have you told H why you are going to Canada?

xo
H.

thank you and yes I have toolh him why. In very clear terms I need to take time for myself. My health is deteriorating due to stress. I need to focus on myself for a while so I can approach the idea of saving our marriage with a clear mind. Emotions are running too high right now and I need a time out before I make a decision to walk away that I may regret later.

I relocated years ago to be with him and because I am a stay at home mom and for other reasons I find myself alone here in GA. No really close friends and no family to speak off....so I have let him know that I have to be around people who love and support me....and hopefuly one day he will be able to love and support me again.

I pray it works out. I know living is a risk but I have to take it.

Thanks again

BH